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Finding the Helpers

During this time of unimaginable pain for the lives lost in Connecticut, I am comforted a little by Fred Rogers’ quote:

When I was a boy and would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

During tragedies like this, we notice all the helpers come out of the woodwork… police, fire fighters, pastors, and counselors. I read some excellent advice today on the facebook page for the Association for Play Therapy. If you are a mental health professional (play therapist, social worker, counselor, etc.), register with your local schools, public officials, and American Red Cross so that you can help your community in a time of need. Thank you to all the first responders, teachers, parents, religious leaders, and more, who are coming together to help our neighbors in need.

More inspirational quotes by Fred Rogers:

If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person

Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them in nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and our anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it.

We all have different gifts and different ways of saying to the world who we are. The world needs a sense of worth, and it will achieve it only by its people feeling they are worth while.

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Guest Blog Post on HoustonLPC.com!

I am very excited to share a link to my very first “guest blog post,” Top 5 Questions About Play Therapy Answered, on HoustonLPC.com! This is a quickly growing site for both mental health professionals and individuals seeking professional counseling services in the Houston, Texas and surrounding areas. HoustonLPC was founded by David Bueno Martin, an innovative counselor who brings energy and enthusiasm to the professional counseling arena.  He has a vision for the Houston area to provide relevant and important information for persons seeking counseling services and to unite professionals to collaborate for continuing education, work association and referrals. The site contains up-to-date counselor bios with their specialties listed for persons to consider interviewing when seeking professional counseling services. David also has a private practice in Katy, Texas, and you can find more information about Martin Counseling on his website.

Visit the website if you are:

1) seeking reliable counseling services

2) a professional counselor and would like to be considered for a listing

3) an intern looking for supervision

4) interested in posting a job opening for a professional counselor

I look forward to future collaboration with Mr. Martin and appreciate the opportunity to share my passion for play therapy with his audience!

 

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Bringing Back Old Fashioned Play

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple”

- Dr. Seuss

I though of this quote when I came across an article by Alix Speigel, Old Fashioned Play Builds Serious Skills . This article touches on an important topic for all parents, which is the ever growing support on the importance of creative, “old fashioned” play. Please take a moment to read this article along with my post today.

Disorders like ADD and ADHD, childhood bipolar disorder, and Anxiety and Depression in children is reported to be at an all time high these days. While there is some controversy that these are over-diagnosed (which itself a topic for another blog post), it’s hard to deny that children today are struggling with issues surrounding poor impulse control, difficulty with emotional regulation, poor attention skills, etc. These are what we call “Executive Functions.” One of the current theories is that children today are not engaging in imaginative play, which researchers are discovering is a key component in developing executive functions. The types of toys available today, along with the electronics (tv, gaming systems, iPads) are what our kids are being exposed to and spending their time doing, rather than playing outside or using their imagination. A majority of people today think these latest and greatest toys and games make our kids smarter, but in fact, studies show just the opposite!

For those of you with preteens and teenagers, this information is still relevant. Rather than watching tv or game for 2 hours after school, have your kids journal, read, or build something outside. The possibilities are endless. Changing your expectations of them now, after the bad habits have formed, will be your greatest challenge. Start out slow, maybe requiring reading time for just 15 minutes a day. Suggest some fun activities you can do as a family. Get creative and make it a priority.

As a Play Therapist, I am encouraged by this growing research that supports the power of play in a child’s cognitive development. As a parent, I am relieved to know how simple it can be to create an enriched environment for my children to thrive and grow. We don’t have to spend a lot of money or stress that they don’t have the latest toy. Encouraging our children to play creatively with one another is one of the most important things we can do. Give them crayons, blocks, or a box and cheer on their imagination and zest for what the natural environment has to offer, rather than Mattel.

Here are some more articles on the topic I think you will find interesting.

Q&A: The Best Kind of Play for Kids

Creative Play Makes for Kids in Control

New York Times: Taking Play Seriously

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