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Self-Care During An Unlikely Time

One of my colleagues started working closer to home this year. While a shorter drive is always a good thing, she said that being 5 minutes from home, instead of 20 minutes, didn’t give her enough time to rest and change her mindset after a long day of work before getting home to four young kids. This got me to thinking more about my own 15 minute drive work to home. This is a time of my day when I don’t have kids in the car or a reason to be on the phone. I often put on music that is quiet so I can wind down from the day’s events. I use this time to think about my sessions and clear my mind of anything that may interrupt my focus on my husband and kids.

How To Use Your Drive Time for Self-Care Time

What do you do with your time in the car? Here are a few ideas that come to mind!

PS: These are best during your individual time if you have any and not with kids in tote! :)  Also, if you rarely to never spend time driving, replace with walking, riding, boating… whatever works for your life!

Process Your Recent Day. Think about the people you interacted with, emotions you may have felt, and thoughts you may have had. When our minds are busy, this can take away from being in the moment with our loved ones, so if you have an opportunity to process the day’s events before getting home, take advantage of that time.

Plan Your Upcoming Day. Whether you are early or late in your day, consider things you want to accomplish, calls you need to make, and goals for the upcoming day.

Practice Deep Breathing. This is one of the best ways to relax, especially if you had a challenging day, or find yourself feeling anxious.

Notice Your Surroundings. Do you have a beautiful view? What interesting things do you notice? What sounds do you hear? Try using this time to practice being in the moment, even for this part of your day. I bet you will notice something around you that you’re glad you took a moment to find.

Listen to Good Music. My music varies depending on the time of day and my mood. You may choose upbeat, happy music to get you motivated in the morning, and relaxing, inspirational music at the end of the day.

Identify What Your Thankful For. Often times, we spend the car ride focusing on problems or thinking about what needs to be done, but this is a prime opportunity to think about what areas in our life are positive. List these areas in your mind and your will find yourself feeling joy from the positive thinking.

Listen to an Audiobook. I have always been a fan of book on audio, ever since I was little and listened to a Bengi cassette tape over and over. If you think about how much time you spend in the car over a year, it’s likely an incredible amount of time you could be spending getting through a good book! You may choose a good fiction novel (I loved the Hunger Games series), or a self-help book (my most recent was John Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work).

Learn a New Language. I’m sure Rosetta Stone has an audio series that works for traveling. If you spend enough time in a car, I think it would be awesome to use that time to learn something new!

Pray. You definitely want to keep your eyes open on the road, but talk to God on your way to your destination. You may want to express thankfulness or request help for a problem from a higher power. No matter your reason, prayer can bring a sense of peace and joy to your day, whether it is beginning or ending.

How do you spending your car time? I would love to hear your thoughts!

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No Longer A Supermom Wannabe!

A couple months ago I found myself stressed out and feeling like I was constantly going. I imagined myself as a mouse on a wheel, spinning away and not getting anywhere. I had to take a step back and look at what was going on in my life that led me to feel this way. It’s not good for me, my family, or my clients when I am tired and over-stressed. I had to identify those things in my life that were pulling me down and below is the worksheet I used to help me with this. I identified several areas in which I could make changes. I was expecting myself to be Supermom and Superwife! One example: I was making breakfast for Max every morning, which included scrambled eggs and fresh fruit. If I couldn’t meet my own expectation, I would be frustrated and disappointed. I finally had to make a choice that breakfast would sometimes be as simple as a banana and cereal bar. I know what some of you are thinking, but hey, everyone’s got something right?! :)

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Whether you have no kids, one kid, multiple kids, plus or minus a spouse and pets, life can get busy! It’s so easy for us to forget about ourselves and get into the routine of tackling the day-to-day tasks on our list. What’s not even mentioned in the above scenario is all the emotional drama you may be carrying around with you all day, such as financial stress or dealing with a difficult co-worker. Emotional energy is just as draining as anything else.

When I say “energy drainers”, I am referring to people, situations, activities, obligations and responsibilities that take physical and emotional energy from our day, such as baseball practice, long hours at work, etc. “Energy givers” are just the opposite of an energy drainer. Energy givers may be as simple as eating breakfast in the morning, daily devotions, and exercise.

I encourage anyone to make a list of their energy drainers and energy givers. Eliminate those areas of your life that drain you and add in those things that give you energy. You don’t have to be a Superhero!

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