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Fun and Easy To Make Relaxation Flip Books

Last month I came across these relaxation scripts online (link) that I found really fun and easy to use. This site was intended to offer techniques for anxious little ones to use when having to give blood. Kids had fun practicing these, and it was inexpensive to reproduce laminated flip books to send home with clients. Its also small enough for me to keep one on hand in my purse.

This was so easy to make.

  1. print the pictures in color from the website
  2. laminate the sheet
  3. cut out each picture individually
  4. punch a hold in the corner of each card
  5. slide each picture into a ring, such as a small key ring or notecard ring.

I have done this with boys, girls, older, younger, and even with families. After learning all the techniques, I have them choose their top 3 favorites to practice over the week when they feel angry, frustrated, or anxious. It’s a lot of fun and I have had great feedback from this simple, yet effective tool!

Here are the techniques. Each one is intended to target a certain part of the body, such as the jaw, shoulders, and arms. My 3 favorites are the Lemon, Turtle, and Cat! :)

Jaw: Chew That Carrot
Now, pretend that you are trying to eat a giant, hard carrot. It is very hard to chew. Bite down on it. As hard as you can. We want to turn that carrot into mush! Keep biting. (Hold for 10 seconds). Good. Now relax. You’ve eaten the carrot. Let yourself go as loose as you can.

Shoulders and Neck: Hide in Your Shell
Now pretend you are a turtle. Try to pull your head into your shell. Try to pull your shoulders up to your ears and push your head down into your shoulders. Hold it tight! (Hold for 10 seconds). Okay, you can come out now. Feel your shoulders relax.

Back: Swing Up High
Pretend you are on a swing at the park. Swing your upper body back and forth, back and forth. To get really high, use your arms to help you swing! Keep swinging! (Hold for 10 seconds). Great. You’re all done on the swing. Sit back and relax.

Hands and Arms: Squeeze a Lemon
Pretend you have a whole lemon in each hand. Now squeeze it hard. Try to squeeze all the juice out! Feel the tightness in your hand and arm as you squeeze. Squeeze hard! Don’t leave a single drop. (Hold for 10 seconds). Now relax and let the lemon drop from your hand. See how much better your hand and arm feel when they are relaxed.

Arms and Shoulders: Stretch Like a Cat
Pretend you are a furry, lazy cat and you just woke up from a nap. Stretch your arms out in front of you. Now raise them way up high over your head. Feel the pull in your shoulders. Stretch higher and try to touch the ceiling. (Hold for 10 seconds). Great! Let them drop very quickly and feel how good it is to be relaxed. It feels good and warm and lazy.

Face and Nose: Get That Fly Off Your Nose
Here comes a pesky old fly and he has landed on your nose! Try to get him off without using your hands. Wrinkle up your nose. Make as many wrinkles in your nose as you can. Scrunch up your nose real hard and hold it just as tight as you can. Notice that when you scrunch up your nose, your cheeks and your mouth and your forehead and your eyes all help you and they get tight, too. (Hold for 10 seconds). Good. You’ve chased him away. Now you can just relax and let your whole face go smooth.

Stomach: Squeeze Through a Fence
Now pretend that you want to squeeze through a narrow fence. You’ll have to make yourself very skinny if you’re going to make it through. Suck your stomach in, try to squeeze it against your back bone. Get it real small and tight. Hold it as tight as you can! (Hold for 10 seconds). Okay, you’ve made it! You got through the fence. Settle back and let your stomach come back out where it belongs.

Legs and Feet: Squish Your Toes in the Mud
Now pretend that you are standing barefoot in a big, fat mud puddle. Squish your toes down deep into the mud. Try to get your feet down to the bottom of the mud puddle. You’ll probably need your legs to help you push. Squish your toes down. Push your feet, hard! (Hold for 10 seconds). Okay, come back out now. Relax your feet, relax your legs, and relax your toes. It feels so good to be relaxed. No tenseness anywhere. You feel warm and tingly.

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Living “In the Moment”

As I was rocking Max the other night, lullaby music playing and lights dim, I caught myself thinking of all the things I needed to do that night, the next day, and so on. I suddenly realized I was missing out on such a special moment, with my sweet toddler on my lap and my unborn baby girl in my belly. Here I was, in the silence of night, with the most precious gifts a women can receive.Throughout the day, my toddler is active and expressing as much independence as he possibly can; but at night, after the the hectic moments of dinner and bath, I get to rock him to sleep in my arms. Yet, I almost missed out on the experience because my mind was somewhere else.

Too often, we get so busy that we forget to live in the moment, robbing ourselves of what life is really all about. An unknown author  said it perfectly:

“When I am anxious it is because I am living in the future.  When I am depressed it is because I am living in the past.”

This couldn’t be a truer statement, yet why is it such a struggle for people? I think it’s because living in the moment actually requires conscious effort on our part. Our lives today are so busy that we have a hard time slowing down and actually relishing in the moments that make life so special. Like most fields of thought, there are the extreme thinkers, those who strive to practice “mindfulness” every moment of the day. I’m not one of those people. There are bills to plan for, grocery lists to make, and events to take place in our lives that steal our thoughts and energy sometimes. And as for the past, I love to remember people and events in my life. In fact, retaining a solid memory to hold on to is one of the reasons I think it is so important to become more aware of some of our most special moments in the present.

Whether you are someone who tends to nostalgically think about the past or anxiously worry about the future, slowing down is possible.

  1. Increase your self awareness. Become aware of your feelings, thoughts, and body. What is your breathing like at the moment? Is your mind racing?
  2. Take notice of your environment. What are the sights and sounds around you? Is there a breeze on your face or a warm sun?
  3. Practice deep breathing and prayer and meditation regularly. This quiet time for yourself is essential for your physical and psychological well being.
  4. Make an effort to notice when you are thinking about other things at a time when you should be concentrating on the here and now.

Cherish each moment, each hour in each day,
The enemy, Time, just keeps slipping away.
Life passes so swiftly and waits for no man,
So cherish each second while you still can.

One moment of anger is one moment lost,
You can never regain it, but that is the cost
Of moments we squander on hatred and fear.
Too late we discover the cost was too dear.

Cherish your loved ones before it’s too late,
In case life without them is part of your fate,
Tell them you love them while they are still here,
So they’ll know their existence is what you hold dear.

Don’t waste time reflecting on trivial matters
Don’t worry and fret while watching dreams shatter,
Grab hold of those moments and turn life around,
Just cherish those moments while they still abound.

We cannot step backward to relive one hour.
Recapturing time is not in our power,
And as we grow older, time goes by much faster,
So cherish each moment, they’re gifts from the Master.

By Shirley Love

I also suggest a post from Finding Joy, but warning, you may cry!

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