Doesn’t it feel good when someone you love rubs your shoulders or surprises you with a warm bath? Hopefully you know this feeling of being cared for and loved. It’s often the little things that make a big difference in our relationships.
I am definitely referring to romantic relationships, but also relationships with our kids can be included here too. In a continuing education seminar I attended a while back, the presenters shared some of their techniques for improving and reparing relationships between caregivers (parents, grandparents, foster parents, etc.) and children. One of the ways they did this was to have the child and their guardian display acts of nurturing. These acts included rubbing lotion on each other’s arms and feeding crackers to each other. So simple, yet so effective.
- Rub, scratch, or pat their back.
- Prepare a favorite meal and/or dessert.
- Communicate how you feel. Tell your loved one how much you love them.
- Draw a warm bath. Throw in some bubbles, relaxing scents, or candles too.
- Smother in kisses and give great big bear hugs.
- Buy them something special. You don’t have to spend a lot of money, but make it a meaningful gift.
- Be playful. Life if full of stress and tension. Making a funny face, bumping their hip with yours, or playing a silly joke can remind each other of life’s joys.
- Show interest in their day. Ask questions about their day. Show interest in what they have to say.
- Stroke their head or play with their hair. Who doesn’t feel special when your head is rubbed or hair is played with.
- Make physical contact when you walk by, such as rubbing their shoulders or touching their back.
Try these acts of nurturing as often as possible with your loved ones and notice how they help strengthen your relationship. Feel free to share your experience and ideas as well!
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